So, what do YOU think a good (relationship) partner does to show you they're still interested? (... outside the bedroom, that is. (... outside the sexual realm, entirely. Gods, you people...))
all good things, and certainly things that occur in my relationship :)
non-verbal cues are very important. touchings especially in my vocabulary. DOING things for someone. buying that special treat for them in advance, and having it on hand when they're having a shitty day, thinking about their needs, sometimes before your own, BEING there in some fashion when they need you, even when they don't know it.
i'd also add it's the things they don't do, too much hopefully. like being patient instead of ripping you a new one every 10 minutes. defending your honor instead of joining in the catty comments (even if true).
but generally, surprises and teasings and many quirky things that should just happen. their lack is a rather distinct warning sign.
blowing you off to hang out with other people and decreasing good things is probably a good clue it goes the wrong way.
i'd also add it's the things they don't do, too much hopefully. like being patient instead of ripping you a new one every 10 minutes. defending your honor instead of joining in the catty comments (even if true).
This is a very good point, I think. Nothing grinds down a relationship like a constant stream of criticism from one's partner.
blowing you off to hang out with other people and decreasing good things is probably a good clue it goes the wrong way.
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non-verbal cues are very important. touchings especially in my vocabulary. DOING things for someone. buying that special treat for them in advance, and having it on hand when they're having a shitty day, thinking about their needs, sometimes before your own, BEING there in some fashion when they need you, even when they don't know it.
i'd also add it's the things they don't do, too much hopefully. like being patient instead of ripping you a new one every 10 minutes. defending your honor instead of joining in the catty comments (even if true).
but generally, surprises and teasings and many quirky things that should just happen. their lack is a rather distinct warning sign.
blowing you off to hang out with other people and decreasing good things is probably a good clue it goes the wrong way.
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This is a very good point, I think. Nothing grinds down a relationship like a constant stream of criticism from one's partner.
blowing you off to hang out with other people and decreasing good things is probably a good clue it goes the wrong way.
That, too.