LJ Friends Meme

[jbsegal]

Which {N} LJ Friends have you known the longest?

Hm.
candle_light and lyonesse 80
anotherjen 82, I think.
and then redbird, roadnotes, volund and (probably) cattitude in 83.

Is/are your significant orher/s on LJ?

Yep. All of the direct ones. When you get into the extended circle, it falls off.

Do you have LJ friends you've never met in real life?

Yeah.

Do you have friends you met first on LJ, then in real life?

Hm. Let's see...
Not that I'm seeing. So far, the people I hadn't met before they ended up on my friends list I still haven't met. If I'm wrong. Let me know.

Does it hurt your feelings when someone unfriends you?

As someone else put it, it stings a bit. I need to try to remember that free users don't have filtering capabilities...but for those who do, it means not that they don't care about what I have to say, but instead that they don't trust me.

What would make you unfriend someone?

Don't know. Someone I don't know being endlessly uninteresting. Someone I do know? Doing something that would make me not consider them a 'friend' any more...I can always avoid reading their writings and filter them out of more sensative things if I feel I need to.

Do you discuss personal information in your LJ?

I do.
It's my journal. I'll discuss what I want. I generally try to let people know what's coming and use cuts and filters from time to time. But it's my life.

Yes, I know about the questions of data security and such. So far, I've talked about nothing that will destroy my life when LJ's servers are cracked.

Comments

[bluedaisy.livejournal.com]

For non-free users, is there some way you can *read* only certain filters? I read almost exclusively off my friends page, and have occasionally taken people off who are prolific writers, not because I don't care what they have to say, but because I have so little time to read anything during term. I wish there were a way to say "I want to let this user read my posts, but I'd like to skip theirs for a bit".

[jbsegal.livejournal.com]

If I'm reading what you're asking accurately, no.

People who can set up filters can make them public:
http://jbsegal.livejournal.com/friends/Comics
so that you can read MY friends filters if I want to let you, but no, you can't do the same without giving them money.

[dbang.livejournal.com]

Comics! Wow! Excellent! how do I find out what other comics I can "friend"?

[jbsegal.livejournal.com]

A) syn_promo
B) http://www.livejournal.com/syn/
C) http://www.livejournal.com/syn/list.bml
D) http://www.adcott.net/lj_syn/ (which I like better than C)

[bluedaisy.livejournal.com]

I think you misunderstood me. I am already a paid user, but I did not realize that I could make filters that I could read, instead of just filters of people who could see certain posts of mine.
I will have to look into that.

[dbang.livejournal.com]

Free users can both create filters for their own posts, and limit which friends they want to read.

The friends group called "Default View" is who you see when you go to http://www.livejournal.com/users/yourname/friends. By default, this includes everyone you friend, but it doesn't have to; I definitely add and remove people from this group all the time. (You have to be logged in to get this feature, though, otherwise it just shows everyone you've friended.)

Alternatively, create a friends group with any name at all, such as foo, and then you can go to http://www.livejournal.com/users/friends/foo and just see the postings of people in that group. No prob!

[jbsegal.livejournal.com]

Free users can both create filters for their own posts, and limit which friends they want to read.

Really? I obviously had no idea. Cool.

[dbang.livejournal.com]

But now you have to rethink not getting offended when free users unfriend you. Sorry! :-)

[jbsegal.livejournal.com]

Yeah, I thought about that...

Hurm.

[dbang.livejournal.com]

er, make that http://www.livejournal.com/users/yourname/friends/foo

Then there's
http://www.livejournal.com/users/yourname/friendsfriends, a fun feature I just learned about recently. :-)

[alphacygni]

I can't find how to access or change this 'Default View'. Do you have to specifically create a friends group called 'Default View' to get it?

[dbang.livejournal.com]

Yes, create a group whose name is: "Default View".

[sauergeek.livejournal.com]

There are such things as "friends groups", which operate as a friends page but for only a subset of people. Hit the "..." part of the "Journal/Friends" header on the login page to set some up. And, as I'm a free user, they work for free users.

[angelovernh.livejournal.com]

I'm far more likely to remove someone from my friends list who NEVER responds to my posts than for any other reason.