Attraction realization

[jbsegal]

I just figured out something: I'm attracted to thin women, as long as they're not "conventionally" attractive... you know, in the "societally", "fashionably" defined way... they (the "conventionally" attractive) just look bony and/or emaciated.

... which should not be taken by those thin women I've expressed attraction to as any sort slight, please. Thanks.

(Posting this is, in part, prompted by a foot-in-mouth sort of comment I made at P&F's party to someone...)

Comments

[trowa-barton.livejournal.com]

This explains a few things

[jbsegal.livejournal.com]

Oh?
I'm always interested in what others experience of me...

[dancingdeer.livejournal.com]

I thought you liked me for my cuddling ability. And, oh, laugh. Yeah, that.

[foms.livejournal.com]

There is that.

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

I've gotten in trouble for saying that I like people who aren't conventionally attractive or that I have ecclectic taste. It's one of those things that seems hard to explain in a flattering fashion. "Yup, so I'm admitting the large mass of thronging idiots wouldn't find you attractive. Why do you care? They're idiots! And I'm not an idiot and I think you're way hot!"

[redbird]

It might work better in the positive: that you like people who have X, Y, Z attributes rather than what they don't have.

[plymouth.livejournal.com]

When I want to give someone a compliment, sure. But saying "conventionally attractive people aren't" serves a different conversational purpose.

[blk]

My problem (yes, I do say my problem, because I think it's borne from my self-issues, not others' wording) with people who like to exclaim over attributes is that it's far too easy for me to notice that I don't match any of them, and start feeling invisible. For example, I frequently hear men exclaim that they like thick legs, women with curves, cleavage, etc, which, well, I don't have, and don't want to have. I'm not busty, not particularly small waisted, not tall, etc. I'm just me.

So I end up feeling the opposite as your subjects do: "Yep, so the large mass of thronging idiots usually find me attractive, but the intelligent geeks I know don't." Which, logically, I know isn't usually true (yes yes, JB), but often requires a saving roll against my insecurity, which can be frustrating, both to me and to the original speaker.

Can't win.

[coraline]

if you mean the comment to me, i didn't think it was foot in mouth at all -- i found it entertaining :)

(if you didn't mean the comment to me, then nevermind! :)

PVP Online

[nakor.livejournal.com]

The four strips beginning with
http://www.pvponline.com/archive.php3?archive=20050105
might be worth your time.

Re: PVP Online

[signsoflife.livejournal.com]

y'know, it's a little disturbing when you read an online comic and think, "Yeah, that's exactly what happened with my ex, except we didn't communicate NEARLY as well as the people having a humorous misunderstanding in the comic. . . "

Re: PVP Online

[akrissy.livejournal.com]

L.O.L.
Thank you!

[wolfkitn.livejournal.com]

*chuckle*

well, er, some of us had an inkling about this already, now didn't we. ;)